10-17 January 2020 Nicaragua Winter Hakomi Retreat

We would love you to join us in San Juan Del Sur, Nicaragua this winter, for a week of relaxing and practicing Hakomi!

Our friends, Juliette and Antonio, from Whitehorse, Yukon, have been staying at a village resort just outside San Juan Del Sur in the winter and love this place.   We are honoured and grateful that Juliette will be organizing this workshop for us. You can contact Juliette Anglehart Zedda directly for details about the retreat, and registration. Her email is:  info@gracespaceyukon.com

Some info about what to expect:

Accommodation is in private villas at Villas de Palermo, near San Juan Del Sur. The villas accommodate either one couple, a family, or two single people. If you register as a single person and are attending on your own, you will be matched with another participant to share a villa. The resort is low key, on a hillside (cooler) with a view, quiet, kid-friendly and about a 20 minute walk to the beach and to the town.  There’s a swimming pool and little restaurant on site.

$1100 Canadian per person includes one week’s accommodation, an airport shuttle, daily yoga, daily breakfast and lunch, and 3 hours of Hakomi training per day. 

Surfing lessons, Spanish lessons and childcare are available for an additional cost. (Juliette and Antonio have 3 young ones and have established connections with trusted local folks).

This Hakomi retreat is multi-level.  It is for all students, whatever level of experience, to take their next steps in experiencing and practicing the method. During one of the seven days, we will have an extra 3 hour session, either in the afternoon or the evening.  The retreat will count as 4 days toward our Islands Hakomi Education Network 42 day Hakomi training.

Daily Schedule will look roughly like this:

7-9am: Optional yoga with Juliette who is a very experienced yoga teacher

9-10am: Breakfast

10am-1pm: Hakomi 

1pm-2pm: Lunch

2pm onwards: Free time to explore the beach, town, have a nap, take a swim, etc. There are plenty of restaurants in town to eat dinner. Here’s a short video of the town, San Juan del Sur.

For more info contact Juliette: info@gracespaceyukon.com

Note: Payments due by October 31st to ensure Special accommodation fee.

Join us now to explore Mindful Self-Discovery this fall! Hakomi Training Sept – Dec 2019

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Hakomi, created by Ron Kurtz, is a method of assisted self study. It is designed to help heal old emotional wounds that live on in the form of life limiting beliefs about oneself and about the world. These beliefs, often unconscious, can shape both our perception and our experience. This often results in unnecessary suffering. With the help of a Hakomi practitioner, and using mindfulness, reactions that point to these beliefs can be studied and more life giving experiences become possible.

This 4-weekend series introduces the core ‘techniques’ of working with another in a Hakomi way. From a place of compassion and attunement, we will practice focusing on what is expressed non-verbally through things like body posture, tone of voice, pace of speaking, habitual gestures etc. Using this information we will learn to create ‘little experiments’ for self study. When done in mindfulness these experiments can bring awareness to automatic, sometimes subtle, reactions. It is these reactions that hold clues about the life limiting beliefs we carry. This type of belief can prevent us from experiencing the very thing we long for, or from even seeing that it might be available. Once exposed, beliefs can be questioned.

But there is more. Because the wounding we work with was created through experience, experience is key to its healing. So we will also learn to identify and create the kinds of nourishing experiences that belief has prevented. In Hakomi we call these ‘missing experiences’.

All of this will be supported by practices to help us develop the openhearted, compassionate, spacious state of mind Ron Kurtz called ‘Loving Presence’. For it is this state of mind that empowers any technique.

Dates for Mindful Self-Discovery 2019:

September 7, 8

October 19, 20

November 16, 17

December 7, 8

REGISTRATION:  Please register by making the full payment for the four weekends by the 31st of August.  Payment can be made by e-transfer to Rebecca at abecca2011@gmail.com, or by cheque via snail mail.  Payment through PayPal is also available.  Please contact Rebecca for details.

COST: $1025 (GST included) for the series.  Early Bird rate $1000 (GST included) if paid in full by August 10, 2019.

LOCATION:  Salt Spring Island

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION:  This will be a small group, limited to 15 participants.

CONTACT:  Rebecca at abecca2011@gmail.com

Mindful Self-Compassion Training (8 wks) Oct-Nov 2019

8 week Training course in Mindful Self-Compassion on Thursday evenings from 6pm to 8:45pm on Salt Spring Island

10 October to 28 November, 2019, plus one half day retreat on a Saturday, the 9th of November.  

“The time will come

when, with elation,

you will greet yourself arriving

at your own door, in your own mirror,

and each will smile at the other’s welcome.”

Derek Walcott

Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) is an evidence-based, 8-week, training program designed to cultivate the skill of self-compassion. Based on the groundbreaking research of Kristin Neff and the clinical expertise of Christopher Germer, MSC teaches core principles and practices that enable participants to respond to difficult moments in their lives with kindness, care and understanding.

The three key components of self-compassion are self-kindness, a sense of common humanity, and balanced, mindful awareness. Kindness opens our hearts to suffering, so we can give ourselves what we need. Common humanity opens us to our essential interrelatedness, so that we know we aren’t alone. Mindfulness opens us to the present moment, so we can accept our experience with greater ease. Together they comprise a state of warm-hearted, connected presence.

Self-compassion can be learned by anyone, even those who didn’t receive enough affection in childhood or who feel uncomfortable when they are good to themselves. It’s a courageous attitude that stands up to harm, including the harm that we unwittingly inflict on ourselves through self-criticism, self-isolation, or self-absorption. Self-compassion provides emotional strength and resilience, allowing us to admit our shortcomings, motivate ourselves with kindness, forgive ourselves when needed, relate wholeheartedly to others, and be more authentically ourselves.

Rapidly expanding research demonstrates that self-compassion is strongly associated with emotional wellbeing, less anxiety, depression and stress, maintenance of healthy habits such as diet and exercise, and satisfying personal relationships. And it’s easier than you think.

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After participating in this course, you’ll have skills to:

  • Understand the empirically-supported benefits of self-compassion
  • Motivate yourself with kindness rather than criticism
  • Handle difficult emotions with greater ease
  • Transform challenging relationships, old and new
  • Manage caregiver fatigue
  • Practice the art of savouring and self-appreciation
  • Practice self-compassion in daily life

What To Expect

Program activities include guided meditations, short talks, experiential exercises, group discussion, and home practices. The goal is for participants to directly experience self-compassion and learn practices that evoke self-compassion in daily life.

MSC is primarily a compassion training program rather than mindfulness training like Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR), although mindfulness is the foundation of self-compassion.  MSC is also not psychotherapy insofar as the emphasis of MSC is on building emotional resources rather than addressing old wounds.  Positive change occurs naturally as we develop the capacity to be with ourselves in a kinder, more compassionate way.

It is said that “love reveals everything unlike itself.” While some difficult emotions may arise when practicing self-compassion, MSC teachers are committed to providing a safe, supportive environment for this process to unfold, and to making the journey interesting and enjoyable for everyone.

Prerequisites

No previous experience with mindfulness or meditation is required to attend MSC. To insure safety, participants are asked to provide background information when they register for the program.

It is recommended that participants read at least one of following books before or during the program:

  • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, by Kristin Neff
  • The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, by Christopher Germer
  • The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive, by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer (This book is a deluxe version of the course manual, which is included in the course. You can buy it from Amazon.)

This program fulfills one of the prerequisites for becoming a MSC teacher. For more information on MSC and MSC Teacher Training, please visit www.CenterForMSC.org.

MSC includes 8 sessions of about 3 hours each plus one additional session offered in retreat-style silence to support the deepening of our practice.  Prior to registering, participants should plan to attend every session and practice mindfulness and self-compassion at least 30 minutes per day throughout the program.

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Registration

Early Bird Rate:  $295 if paid in full by 13th September, 2019.  Or $345 if booked after 13 September, 2019.

Contact: Marcia at marciaburton369@gmail.com for details.  Cost includes course handbook for home practice.

See www.mindfulselfdiscovery.com for more information.

Sign up now to join the Hakomi Couples Workshop! August 16 – 19, 2019

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Cultivating Connection, Communication, Compassion:

Taking time for Renewal in relationship

“The simple act of being completely present for another person is truly an act of love.”  Sharon Salzberg

 “For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, ……. the work for which all other work is but preparation. 

                      Maria Ranier Rilke

Join Bob and Marcia for a long weekend with an opportunity to renew, recharge and celebrate your relationship. We will use a simple mindfulness-based/compassion-centered approach, working mainly in couples and sometimes in small groups to support deeper connection, communication and compassion.

You can expect to experience connection with your partner, to have fun, to feel nourished, inspired, and encouraged.

We will focus on:

  • Compassion:

Develop a practice of appreciation for each other

Experience receiving and giving emotional support/nourishment

  • Communication:

Learn simple skills for hearing and being heard by your partner

Cultivate a deeper understanding of what is important to each of you

  • Connection:

Identify and drop pain-causing patterns

Develop supportive, nourishing patterns

The Results We’re Looking For: feeling more at ease, more together, appreciated, supported, met, understood, and able to be more lovingly authentic, and open to the gift of each other.

Although primarily designed for couples in an intimate relationship, please note this workshop is open to any two people in significant relationship, as an opportunity to deepen connection, i.e. mother/daughter, co-workers, brothers, etc.

Schedule:

The schedule offers free time with your partner to help you to enjoy a slower pace, to support the integration of the course material, and to simply have some fun together.

Fri  Aug 16      1 – 4pm

Sat  Aug 17      10am – 1pm and 3 – 6pm

Sun  Aug 18     10am – 1pm and 3 – 6pm

Mon  Aug 19    9am – 12pm

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Bob Milone and Marcia Burton have been teaching mindfulness-based trainings, to help others to build compassion and self-awareness in relationships, for many years.  They are both trainers of the Hakomi Method, aka “Assisted Self-Discovery”, and Bob is one of Ron Kurtz’s Legacy Holders.  Marcia is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and is a Teacher of Mindful Self-Compassion.

Most importantly, Bob and Marcia have been practicing using mindfulness-based approaches to navigate their own 13-year relationship and have a lot of experience getting lost and finding their way back to each other!  Their style is light-hearted, down-to-earth, warm and compassionate.

Cost:  $495 (GST included)  per couple (non-residential)

Registration:  Please send full payment via e-transfer to Rebecca at: abecca2011@gmail.com, to attend the workshop.

Info about accommodation and what to do on Salt Spring:
http://www.saltspringtourism.com

Register now! Spots are filling up for the Summer Hakomi Workshop

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Welcome to our 9th annual Summer Hakomi Workshop on Salt Spring Island.

We hope you will join us this summer to enjoy learning and practicing Hakomi in a beautiful setting. The workshop is an opportunity to enter an atmosphere of Loving Presence and curiosity, where each of us can engage with the Hakomi method, Ron Kurtz’s life’s work. The workshop is suitable for anyone with an interest in learning more about Hakomi, from complete beginners to those with many years of experience. The workshop will be primarily experiential, with some discussion and theory. Participants will have the chance to experience Hakomi as a ‘client’, to practice live sessions in the role of ‘therapist’, and to receive coaching from Senior Hakomi Trainers. Bob and Marcia will gently encourage and guide participants to explore the method at their own pace.

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2019 Hakomi Training: Mindful Self-Discovery Sept-Dec

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Hakomi, created by Ron Kurtz, is a method of assisted self study. It is designed to help heal old emotional wounds that live on in the form of life limiting beliefs about oneself and about the world. These beliefs, often unconscious, can shape both our perception and our experience. This often results in unnecessary suffering with the help of a Hakomi practitioner, and using mindfulness, reactions that point to these beliefs can be studied and more life giving experiences become possible.

This 4-weekend series introduces the core ‘techniques’ of working with another in a Hakomi way. From a place of compassion and attunement, we will practice focusing on what is expressed nonverbally through things like body posture, tone of voice, pace of speaking, habitual gestures etc. Using this information we will learn to create ‘little experiments’ for self study. When done in mindfulness these experiments can bring awareness to automatic, sometimes subtle, reactions. It is these reactions that hold clues about the life limiting beliefs we carry. This type of belief can prevent us from experiencing the very thing we long for, or from even seeing that it might be available. Once exposed, beliefs can be questioned.

But there is more. Because the wounding we work with was created through experience, experience is key to its healing. So we will also learn to identify and create the kinds of nourishing experiences that belief has prevented. In Hakomi we call these ‘missing experiences’.

All of this will be supported by practices to help us develop the openhearted, compassionate, spacious state of mind Ron Kurtz called ‘Loving Presence’. For it is this state of mind that empowers any technique.

Dates for Mindful Self-Discovery 2019:

September 7,8

October 19, 20

November 16, 17

December 7, 8

REGISTRATION:  Please register by making the full payment for the four weekends by the 31st of August.  Payment can be made by e-transfer to Rebecca Finlay at abecca2011@gmail.com, or by cheque via snail mail.  Payment through PayPal is also available.  Please contact Rebecca for details.

COST: $1025 (GST included) for the series.  Early Bird rate $1000 (GST included) if paid in full by August 10, 2019.

LOCATION:  Salt Spring Island

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION:  This will be a small group, limited to 15 participants.

CONTACT:  Rebecca at abecca2011@gmail.com

REGISTER NOW for this Free Event! HAKOMI THANKSGIVING – June 7&8, 2019

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Join us for a potluck supper followed by a day of practice and gathering our Hakomi community together.

We have been offering Hakomi Training on the islands for nine years now and many more years internationally. Throughout this time we have shared and learned with so many wonderful people.

We are grateful to all of you for your interest in Hakomi, for your commitment to healing, and for being who you are in this world.

As our way of thanking you we want to host a potluck evening of good food, music, and celebration, followed by a free day of Hakomi practice together.

We are offering this to anyone who has come to any of our trainings or workshops. While we don’t imagine international students making the trek for a one day event, you are certainly welcome. It is our hope to gather as many people as we can from near and far so that we can all connect in an experience of our wider Hakomi community.

We look forward to seeing you at the first Hakomi Thanksgiving!

This is a free event and we are renting the space at Ram Springs Wellness Centre on Salt Spring Island. Donations toward the venue are appreciated!

  • June 7 – 5:30 pm Potluck
  • June 8 – 10 am – 5:30 pm Practice Day

To register, please contact Rebecca @ abecca2011@gmail.com

Hakomi Couples Workshop 16-19 August 2019

P1090352Cultivating Connection, Communication, Compassion:

Taking time for Renewal in relationship

“The simple act of being completely present for another person is truly an act of love.”  Sharon Salzberg

 “For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, ……. the work for which all other work is but preparation. 

                      Maria Ranier Rilke

Join Bob and Marcia for a long weekend with an opportunity to renew, recharge and celebrate your relationship. We will use a simple mindfulness-based/compassion-centered approach, working mainly in couples and sometimes in small groups to support deeper connection, communication and compassion.

You can expect to experience connection with your partner, to have fun, to feel nourished, inspired, and encouraged.

We will focus on:

  • Compassion:

Develop a practice of appreciation for each other

Experience receiving and giving emotional support/nourishment

  • Communication:

Learn simple skills for hearing and being heard by your partner

Cultivate a deeper understanding of what is important to each of you

  • Connection:

Identify and drop pain-causing patterns

Develop supportive, nourishing patterns

The Results We’re Looking For: feeling more at ease, more together, appreciated, supported, met, understood, and able to be more lovingly authentic, and open to the gift of each other.

Although primarily designed for couples in an intimate relationship, please note this workshop is open to any two people in significant relationship, as an opportunity to deepen connection, i.e. mother/daughter, co-workers, brothers, etc.

Schedule:

The schedule offers free time with your partner to help you to enjoy a slower pace, to support the integration of the course material, and to simply have some fun together.

Fri 16 Aug      1-4pm

Sat  17 Aug          10am-1pm and 3-6pm

Sun 18 Aug          10am-1pm and 3-6pm

Mon 19 Aug         9am-12pm

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Bob Milone and Marcia Burton have been teaching mindfulness-based trainings, to help others to build compassion and self-awareness in relationships, for many years.  They are both trainers of the Hakomi Method, aka “Assisted Self-Discovery”, and Bob is one of Ron Kurtz’s Legacy Holders.  Marcia is a Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) and is a Teacher of Mindful Self-Compassion.

Most importantly, Bob and Marcia have been practicing using mindfulness-based approaches to navigate their own 13-year relationship and have a lot of experience getting lost and finding their way back to each other!  Their style is light-hearted, down-to-earth, warm and compassionate.

Cost:  $495 (GST included)  per couple (non-residential)

Registration:  Please send a $100 non-refundable deposit (per person) by 16th of July, 2019 via e-transfer to Rebecca at: abecca2011@gmail.com), to hold your space.

Info about accommodation and what to do on Salt Spring:
http://www.saltspringtourism.com

2019 Hakomi Summer Workshop August 9-12th

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Welcome to our 9th annual summer Hakomi workshop on Salt Spring Island.

We hope you will join us this summer to enjoy learning and practicing Hakomi in a beautiful setting. The workshop is an opportunity to enter an atmosphere of Loving Presence and curiosity, where each of us can engage with the Hakomi method, Ron Kurtz’s life’s work. The workshop is suitable for anyone with an interest in learning more about Hakomi, from complete beginners to those with many years of experience. The workshop will be primarily experiential, with some discussion and theory. Participants will have the chance to experience Hakomi as a ‘client’, to practice live sessions in the role of ‘therapist’, and to receive coaching from Senior Hakomi Trainers. Bob and Marcia will gently encourage and guide participants to explore the method at their own pace.

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Mindful Self-Compassion Training/Summer Holiday on Salt Spring Island 5-12 July 2019

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Come and enjoy eight half-days of Mindful Self-Compassion with Trained Teacher, Marcia Burton, and have a holiday on Salt Spring Island this summer.

Friday pm 5 July to Friday am 12 July, 2019.

We will meet for 3 hours each day to learn and explore the practice of Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC).  You can expect to enjoy a slow paced environment, to relax and gently reconnect with yourself. Together, we will use guided meditations and experiential exercises that encourage us to be more self-compassionate, and more compassionate with others. We will explore some of the barriers to being kinder to ourselves.  You will learn simple yet powerful techniques that you can take away to practice on your own, and to support friends, family, and clients.

By the end of the holiday, you will have completed the MSC Training Course, as developed by Christopher Germer and Kristin Neff, one of the pre-requisites for the MSC Teacher Training course.  (www.centerformsc.org)

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The rest of the day, you will have free time to relax and explore this beautiful island.  This schedule allows participants to take time to slow down, integrate and practice self-compassion and self-care between training sessions.

There are many activities to enjoying, including (but not limited to!):

Famous Salt Spring Saturday market

Art galleries

Artist Studio Tour

Craft market

Restaurants and eclectic food trucks

Live indoor/outdoor music at the Treehouse Café

Beachcombing

Stunning sunsets

Whale watching

Yoga/wellness classes

Spa and body-work treatments

Hiking trails

Kayaking

Scooter rentals

Swimming at one of many lakes or beaches

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This course meets the pre-requisite for MSC training for those who wish to do the MSC teacher training.

MSC Training program including course handbook:  $345 (includes GST)

Early bird rate if paid by 14 June:  $295 (includes GST)

For registration contact Marcia Burton:  marciaburton369@gmail.com

Please note:  Cost does not include accommodation, transportation, or meals.